Dear Daniel:

I like your proactive attitude. It takes courage to write a letter to your father. If I was to have an over protective attitude toward you, similar to your mother’s, I would worry that writing such a letter would hurt you somehow. But I think that what’s  most important is that you take a reasonable risk and do something that may be a bit scary. I like it that you came up with two initiatives: sending the letter and talking to your mother about your childhood.

Maybe you can explain to your mother that it is important that she doesn’t try to protect you from true information, that you need the truth (the truth she knows), and you are strong enough to handle it, and that over protecting you weakens you. Let me know how it goes, I will wait for your update.

anita