Dear Jacobus:

You shared that at 28, you’ve been in a 4 year relationship with your wife (35). The two of you met at Komodo (one of the 17,508 islands that comprise the Republic of Indonesia, home to the Komodo dragon) where you worked as a master scuba instructor in 2016. A week after meeting you, she asked you to marry her and move with her to Vancouver, Canada.

You proceeded to leave your job, your family and “everyone in Indonesia”, and moved to Canada, had a small wedding with her family and lived with her in Vancouver.

Last year she started changing, stopped being intimate with you, started yelling at you, complaining that you don’t make more money. You then left her and returned to  Indonesia. And then, “the corona virus happened” and you were “stuck in Indonesia”. She was angry at you for going back to Indonesia and wanted a divorce.

“I fight  every single day to convince her how much I love her, she’s a good woman, I really don’t wanna lose her, I send hundreds of text and email every day, but she’s ignored it, then she’s started to block me on everything. Is there any other way I can use to bring her back?” –

– I ask because I want to understand:

1. Is “a good woman” one who yells at her husband, one who complains that he doesn’t make enough money?

2. Is it that you want her back, or is it that you want to live in Vancouver, and not in Indonesia?

anita