What Kim wrote is beautiful. Sometimes we think that if only we can get the other person to change, then our lives will be golden. This is what I have heard is a fallacy or illusion of control. It can be our own codependence, sometimes when we grow up in dysfunctional families, we pick up behaviors and thinking that don’t serve us well as adults. They served us well to maintain our lives in that familial dysfunction but as we grow older, it helps to dig deep into why we may think or react like we do. Many people are very limited in their ability to change, like some of our parents, some of our former partners, some of our friends. We can’t do their emotional work for them, as Kim said. But we can do ours for us. Because our journey is about us and is the path to moving forward. Sometimes we do hold onto our pain because we don’t know how to release it or do our work to heal ourselves. While I said others have trouble changing, we can also have difficulty or stress with the thought that we can change ourselves and work on what we need to work on. All humans come into this world with issues, problems, things that happen bad in life. Our journey. I admire you for wanting different in your life.