Dear Jacobus:

You are welcome. I am still trying to understand, therefore I ask the following. You can answer if you want:

1. “I have done everything I could do to convince her that I’m not a bad person… I thought I could show her I’m not a bad person”-

First question: which one of the following is true?

a. You used to be a bad person to this woman, but you changed, and now you are no longer a bad person. You’ve been trying to show her that you are no longer a bad person.

b. You were not a bad person to this woman, but she accused you of being a bad person. You’ve been trying to show her that she was wrong, and that you were not, and still are not a bad person.

Second question: if you used to be a bad person, in what ways were you a bad person?

Third question: if she wrongly accused you of being a bad person, what were her accusations?

anita