Dear Michelle:

You are welcome. Like you wrote a little while ago, on another thread, it is understandable that because of the extreme circumstances involved in the pandemic, and immigration policy changes in the US and Canada and the politics in Hong Kong.. his plans changed. His plans were downgraded from thriving (further education, a career change, a love relationship with you) to.. just surviving.

Focus on surviving yourself  and on suffering less. Imagine the possibility of you being sad but not in emotional pain. There is a term or technique used in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, called Radical Acceptance, which means accepting what we cannot change (not resisting it) letting it be, saying yes to life, as it is, as it comes. If you are able to do that, you will experience peace of mind.

anita