Dear jenny:

You are welcome. I will let you sleep over it and get back to me, like you said you want to do. For now, I have a comment about what you wrote in your second post (and I hope Peter will get back to you regarding your questions):

“Is it possible to reach a place where I feel nothing for my ex-bf?”- yes, but not any time  soon, maybe in months from now, I am guessing.

“Sometimes I also feel that maybe I’m putting too unrealistic an expectation on me, thinking that I should just never think or miss him.. that I should detach every emotion from him.. I get too stuck”- these are unrealistic expectations, wishful thinking: humans cannot make emotional attachment disappear/ be gone, and the more you try the impossible, the more stuck you get.

“Maybe I need a more realistic, middle ground”- I agree. Don’t fight your emotional attachment to him; don’t fight any of your feelings; the more you fight them, the stronger they get, and longer they last. Don’t be harsh on yourself for feeling anything that you feel, relax, let yourself be.

anita