Dear Ry:

You are welcome.  As far as being angry with your ex, I don’t know her personally, but when you mentioned earlier that she yelled at her son, and if I understand correctly, that she was/is in the habit of yelling at him, and otherwise expressing her impatience with him, well.. I am angry too.

I wish she had the motivation and the self discipline to never yell at him, and to be as patient with him as possible. The more peaceful her life, the less she will yell at him, but unless she is motivated and disciplined, she will yell again when distressed, because life is not and cannot be always peaceful and problem free.

I would say that if she is still yelling at him, it is not the lack of regular contact with you that is continuing to damage him, but her yelling and impatience.

anita