Dear Amrita:

You described a married man and father who has or has had a romantic/ sexual relationship with a woman who is not his wife, as a man who is “extremely devoted to his parents and family”- I don’t think that he is a devoted husband or a devoted father, let alone extremely devoted. If and when his wife finds out, she would be very upset, and in turn, his children will be very upset, seeing their mother upset. A devoted husband and father does not unnecessarily endanger the mental health of his wife and children.

“it’s a long distance one presently”- so you don’t get together with him anymore since you moved, or do you still get together with him, only not as often?

“Honestly I even don’t understand what this relationship gives me, whether I feel wanted and loved to whom I mean the whole world, or whether it is that me, like I would not be in a committed relationship”- I didn’t understand part of the sentence, can you re-write this sentence, and elaborate on it? (And.. did he tell you that you “mean the whole world” to him?)

anita