Dear Hope:

It reads like John, although separated from his wife for a year when the two of you slept together for the first time, went back to his wife very soon after beginning a sexual relationship with you, and that is why he would “come over only late at night”, and why he “was as trying to sneak around like he didn’t want to be seen” with you.

“I’m just looking for answers as to why a good friend would treat another good friend like that”- I am guessing because once he slept with you while being back with his wife, he no longer viewed you as his friend,  but as a woman with whom he was having an extra-marital affair.

“Did I do the right thing?”- do you mean if you did the right thing when you told him that you weren’t “good with this, that it was not what (you) wanted”?- if that’s what you mean, then yes, of course you did the right thing when you told him that.

I hope to read more from you and reply further when I am back to the computer in about 12 hours from now.

anita