Hi Anita,

I think you are correct.  He felt neglected by his mother; this he has told me.  He mother worked full-time, and he was raised by his grandmother, his father’s mother, that lived with them.  He never felt a closeness with his mother.  And, until we got the burial plots, always told me that when he dies he wanted to be cremated and buried at his grandmother’s burial plot.

He always referred to me as “his home”, which I felt was very affectionate.  I felt like he was home to me as well.

I do believe because of his issues, his OCD, indecisiveness, need of guidance, low self-esteem, that he did need someone to take care of him, as a mother would do I would imagine.  As he became more forgetful, I would tell him to write things down, leaving sticky notes around as reminders.  I had him get a small basket which is where he threw his keys, wallet, Blistex….all the things he would never find in the morning before leaving for work.  He always seemed so scatterbrained.  I tried to make his life easier.  I think I did things another woman probably would never have cared to do; she’d let him figure it out.

So, I do believe there is a lot of weight in what you said.

Katie