Dear Katie:

I think that it is time (almost?) to stop waiting for him. I think that it’s a good idea to start the new year fresh. I remember now, reading your recent post, that you wrote earlier that he plays the victim role well. That’s the very annoying part- he wronged you (and your daughter) and yet he feels that he was wronged by you (and, to make it even more insane, he feels that you wronged him for what may or may not have happened in your life about four decades before he entered your life!)

“I will ask bf next time .. how his therapy is going and see what response I get”- good choice. The fact that he did not yet apologize to you tells me that he did not yet make the minimal progress in therapy to understand that he wronged you. Maybe in his mind, he is trying to.. forgive you, maybe that’s where he is at, in therapy.

anita