Dear Katie:

“I think my daughter wants answers”- now that you know that bf is not mentally healthy, knowing that he is not rational and that he believes that he is a victim when hurting those who love and trust him- for a long period of time, with no expressed guilt- better you protect your daughter from this man, this “bf”, and keep him out of her life. It is bad enough that she had her father who hurt her badly, don’t give this “bf” the opportunity to hurt her again.

When you do ask “bf” about his therapy, as you plan to do, what if you ask him something like: I was wondering if you are working in therapy on forgive me, if you are closer now to forgiving me..(?)

anita