Hi Anita,

thank you for your response. I agree with many things you said. I will say, when I mentioned my insecurities about him having a secret life, he literally said “people can have a secret life anywhere even if they live next door, you just have to learn to trust people”. I agree with his logic and know that he wasn’t actually doing anything that should have made me suspicious but I can also agree with you that not being able to see him or be close to him, stop by his workplace or house if I wanted to probably played a part. As far as the cyber sex thing, I really never got that vibe from him and he never mentioned anything sexual the entire time we talked so I do honestly think he’s a decent guy who just isn’t meeting my needs, but I also wasn’t sure if I was just being too needy considering the circumstances.

As far as dating in a big city, I live in Miami lol. Not exactly the place to find people who are looking for a serious long term relationship or also men who have their stuff together. If you’re looking for a good time, a party, or a 30 year old man who still lives at home and is “self employed” or an “entrepreneur” which always just equates to Being jobless, then this is definitely the place. I’m originally from New York and have lived here for 3 years and haven’t experienced anything like i have trying to date here, it’s very discouraging.