Hi Anita,

I agree that you should trust people over time, but I also don’t think it’s his fault that I don’t necessarily trust people. I actually did date a guy here in miami that ended up having a child and a weird situationship/girlfriend and was complete blindsided so I think that causes me to always think the worst, especially in this case where  that person is so far away.

I never asked him much about that relationship however he is a flight attendant on an airline that only services Europe which they both lived in so I’m sure it was much easier to see her than it would be to see me here in the states. Also, when I asked about why he would want to date someone so far, he always just mentioned that distance didn’t bother him because if we both haven’t met  people in our local cities that we were able to be serious with, why should the distance matter. I didn’t find it that crazy because I have know people who have met their spouse or SO online and ended up together in the same city and with a future so I guess I didn’t find it that weird. But I also said we would need to meet first before I ever considered that and he agreed. We hadn’t set a date or anything but we did talk about me a few times.