Dear Ry:

You are welcome. This is what you shared/ what I understand about this woman: she has a graduate degree, new to her career, working a second job so to pay for her student loans, has little free time. She is divorced, her divorce finalized in January this year, no children and she doesn’t want to have children in the future. When she had the date with you in September, it was her first date since her divorce, and she was just dipping her toes back into dating. She is slim, “with beautiful eyes and a bright smile”, in her early thirties (?), friendly, extroverted, “fiercely independent” and not at all a clingy person.

I can see your attraction to her and why you felt so comfortable with her: she was friendly and positive, not miserable (your ex was often miserable), not the smothering type (your ex had a tendency to smother), not angry or bitter (your ex who had a short fuse), fiercely independent.. all these things made you very comfortable with her. These traits is what you need in a woman, seems to me.

anita

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