Dear miyoid:

Thank you. This is Christmas Day, 5:55 am here (still pitch dark outside), 4:55 pm your time. I hope you are having a pleasant afternoon. Good to read that you are accommodating your sleep schedule best you can to fit your demanding new job. Also good to read that you understand that you “have a limited power” over your boyfriend.

You wrote that he distracts himself but then thinks again about you being with your exes, and not with him, and this thought loops makes him angry, broken hearted- sounds a lot like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I don’t remember if you shared if he was diagnosed with OCD and if he was prescribed medications for it, such as the SSRI family of psych drugs.

beyond ocd. org/ocd facts/ approved medications, reads:  “Four SSRIs that have been shown to be effective in treating OCD and are FDA-approved to treat adults with OCD in the United States are: Sertraline.., Fluoxetine.., Fluvoxamine.. Paroxetine” (I was prescribed Sertraline and later Fluvoxamine for OCD in the past, no longer on any medications).

Again, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

anita