Dear Kay:

“he plans eventually to have a long term relationship again, but not right now. Because he wants to just do the things he would not be able to do when married and with kids, like travel and stuff like that”-

-sleeping with multiple women (more than one at any period of time) is part of the “stuff like that” that he wants to do now.

So, his plan is that at some point in the future, he will focus on one woman and be loyal to her. Question is, who is this woman going to be. You can ask him this question: what kind of woman will it take for you give up all other women; what kind of woman will it take for you to marry and have kids with her?

According to his answer, if it is an honest answer, you can find out if… you are his kind of a woman, the  kind that he may consider marrying, or not.

anita