Dear Sarah:

I don’t think that it is a good idea to “slow down rather than just put him off completely”, as in.. talking with him for only 3 hours at night, instead of 5.

“I could just put a point with him that it’s better to communicate at work..”- I don’t think you should make a suggestion/ put a point to him, that he limits his communication with you to the workplace, and leave it up to him to take your suggestion seriously, or not. Don’t give him that power.

“I am sort of concerned if I be rude to him, he could create issues at work for me. Don’t you think?”- not likely, because you said that he is nice to everyone- so.. it is not likely that he will become rude and vengeful. But of course, I cannot predict the future.

But I can predict that if you stay up at night talking with him, if you remain stressed, confused and exhausted because of your outside of work communication with this man- then you are very likely to have “issues at work”, such as not doing a good job, being forgetful, making mistakes, etc.

anita