Dear Kabange:

Here is the story then: he wanted a married woman (A), but because she was married, he couldn’t form Plan A. Blocked in this way,  he went for B (you). He “seemed really keen” with you and has “discussed a future together” with you, meaning- he was in the process of forming Plan B. Next, A’s marriage broke down, he then abandoned B and Plan B “without a word”, and formed Plan A. Now, he is “happy together” with A.

“What really is my lesson in this experience?”- He replaced B with A (he changed the woman in his life), but he didn’t replace/ change his character; He is still the same man who walked away from you “without a word”.

This means that he may walk away from A without a word, if a more attractive prospect, in his mind, comes along (C), dropping Plan A for Plan C. A man of character does not walk away from a woman without a word.

anita