Hey Anita,

I realized I must have missed a response from you – not quite sure why.

Anyway, I am very familiar with limerance and I do think there is definitely some of that here.

But, you’re correct in your point as to why I need that “missing piece” because I have no intention of having an affair with her or marrying her after she divorces her husband.  Ultimately I don’t really “need” anything  but I would have liked to know why this person I have known twenty years, who I got really close to over the course of a year,  did everything but completely ghost me out of her life almost overnight.

But the truth is I already know the answer and I don’t know that getting it from her will do anything other than verify what I know to be true –  she is not the person I thought her to be and she used me.  It sucks but that’s what it really comes down to and I have to learn to accept it and have better boundaries in the future.

Anyway, thanks again Anita!