Dear Ryan:

You wrote: “She also said that… she needs to wait for me and not accept anything less”- the italicized was a Freudian slip, correct? She said that she needs to wait for a man as mature and honest as you…?

Assuming this was a Freudian slip, and congruent with what you shared in your recent post, she feels quite sure about not being in a long term relationship/ partnership with you. I commend you for asking her the question you needed to be answered,  and for reacting to her answer the way you did. You’ve been very kind, respectful and gracious to her all along. She is fortunate to have had you in her life.

Regarding the red flags and “rotten pieces”- that’s the plus side of the relationship not going forward: not having to deal with the rotten pieces (excessive drinking, vaping, anorexic symptoms… ?)

anita