Dear ConfusedinCali:

To give you advice specific to your personal tendency to speak your mind without thinking, you are welcome to give me 1-3 examples of separate occasions when you spoke your mind to three different individuals: (a) What were the circumstance of you speaking your mind, (b) What is it that you said and in what tone, and (c) What was the response of the listener/ did what you say affect the relationship with that person?

anita