1) that is true, its not about imperfections. but she is just really lost and confused and full of contradictions. Also, completely oblivious to the consequences of her actions. She is emotionally deeply disturbed. I just felt really sorry for her and to be honest maybe thought I could help. but it is not my place to help, I understand now.

2) Healthy attachment vs Unhealthy attachment-interesting one. I don’t even know if i can define it. I guess a healthy attachment is when both people who have a relationship are on the same wavelength and intelligence (emotional as well as intellect). When they can understand each other, talk with each other without much hurt. Unhealthy is when one of the parties has a lot of issues to deal with on their own and affects the other emotionally and mentally. Like I was affected by this girl. That’s unhealthy for me.

About my caring and involvement, i can’t easily detach myself from anyone I care about, be it a healthy or unhealthy relationship. I feel guilty, also that maybe i didnt quite understood this relationship. After all, there is no actual detachment, only another form of attachment.