Dear Nichole:

It is difficult and it is also scary for many people to make a choice between two options when both options have pluses and minuses, knowing that when you choose one, you will be stuck with it for a while, and may regret is.

If the remote location job didn’t pay (including benefits) enough for you to pay your bills, to be able to house and feed yourself, etc., the basic needs, it would definitely be a No (except if it was very part time and made it possible for you to have a second job).

If the remote job offered a significantly lower pay than comparable jobs in the area/ similar areas, than it is probably a No because you don’t want to be taken advantaged of and feel being taken advantage of every day you go to work.

* I wonder if you can ask the remote location employer for a higher pay, explaining to them what you explained to me, that you will “barely make it alone on the pay from remote”?

* Since you attend church now, and if that church gives you comfort, will the remote location mean that you will no longer be able to attend that church, and will there be a comparable or better church available for you in the remote location?

If you want, you can list the pros and cons of both job for me (1, 2, 3..), elaborate on each, and I will give you more of my feedback.

You wrote: “Although functioning some days I feel like I have moments of psychoses. It gets scary”_ first, congratulations for functioning well for so long regardless of how you feel. Second, regarding the moments of psychosis, are you referring to the moments of intense fear (panic) replaced by moments of dissociation (numbing).. and then back to panic at a later time?

anita