Dear JemJem:

“The fear is if I tell him I don’t want to see him anymore and he asks the reason, my reason would be that I’m offended and hurt he is trying to pursue that woman also. And I am worried that if I am honest with him about my reason, he may tell the other woman.. it will cause friction and trouble in the work place”-

I suggest that you tell him part of the truth, not the whole truth: tell him that you don’t want to see him anymore because you feel that it is wrong to sleep with a married man.  Don’t mention the other co-worker. You can tell him that the reason you slept with him even though you believe it is wrong, is because you are so lonely.

I also suggest that you somehow find a man who is a good, single man with whom you can have a quality relationship.

* I will be back to the computer in a few hours.

anita