Dear Katie:

You are welcome and thank you for replying so soon. Women on this site, in the Relationships Forum, often complain about the men in their lives and I’ve never automatically taken the woman’s side just because she is a woman. I took the man’s side whenever I felt that the woman is in the wrong.

In the course of my communication with you, over time, I learned that in your case, this man is definitely in the wrong and has been in the wrong for a long, long time, being selfish and unrepentant, causing you (and your daughter) pain and suffering. The anger you feel for him today, to some extent- I felt for him long ago and throughout, including today as I read your Valentine update. He is.. not a decent person, Katie. He is not honest, not dependable, not reliable, not trustworthy and not even a seed of a motivation to look within himself and heal from what ails him.

I wish that you do not regress and give him any more of your forever-till-the-end, and instead, that you continue and move forward in your healing process.

anita