Hi Anita,

Thinking from your perspective does make a lot of sense, I spend many days recuperating myself by meditation. Sometimes in the middle of the day, while I am doing nothing, I totally agree with you in terms of lashing out. It is unfair for us to let our ugliness out and projecting our own insecurities to others.

I am mostly taking everything for granted and I just realized this a few days ago.

Thank you for chipping in and giving me some helpful advice. I wish a better future for him and for me, and oh, for you too and anyone else. In the time being, I am focusing on my career and my family. Cheers.

Hi TeaK,

Thank you for your explanation. It was totally clear and easy to read, my therapist also said the same thing like yours did. Last month, I was honestly obsessed with watching videos of breakups and ghosting and it came down to attachment style and the explanation behind it.

After talking to my therapist, I think I may have abandonment issues from friends that have been with me since childhood, and now she just disappeared out of blue. I am still working on it and hoping for a better me in the next chapter.

I have a question, does attachment style (e.g: anxious) always caused by the way they rise in a family? Or external factors could cause it too (e.g. being avoidant)?

Thank you.