Dear patelh:

I think that this man who carries the title of your husband, does not deserve this title. I thought so in July and August 2019 when I posted to you: “separate from him and his family… gather information on divorcing, then see a competent, effective and hard working divorce lawyer and proceed…. His family and him are one unit, so to separate from them, you have to separate from him… make it a legal separation and a separate living situation… Obtain legal custody of your child, maybe a shared custody with him..  See to it that you have adequate medical care, that you obtain.. alimony and child support.. Keep your communication with him minimal and specific to co parenting your child”.

I don’t think that you are closer now to taking my advice than you were a year and a half ago. You wrote at the time regarding separating from him: “I wish to take that step but my courage to do it is low. I am the type to make things work and try hard to work around situations”-

– working around disrespect in your marriage… how do you do that?

Interestingly, it may be that his mother/ his parents who disapproved of the marriage are a significant reason why the two are still together: you don’t want to separate from him and please his parents for getting their wish, and “he does not want his parents to think they were right when they said not to go ahead with this marriage.. he does not want to prove them right, he rather prove them wrong”.

anita