Dear Janet:

Good to read from you, and congratulations for having started a new job with less doubt and fear than before!

“I  like being single, but words of pity from others still get to me.. I’m 24 and no one has ever loved me in a romantic way and I can’t help but feel embarrassed”- it is possible (?) that you don’t really want to be in a romantic relationship, that what you want is to not be embarrassed about not being in a relationship.

Maybe because as a child, your father caused you and your mother fear, as an adult- you are afraid to be in a relationship with a man similar to your father and experience the same fear of your childhood, and therefore, you don’t want to be in a romantic relationship. Can it be?

anita