Dear Anamika:

You are welcome: you deserve non-judgment and empathy! You see your faults in the relationship and you figure if you correct all your faults, all that you did wrong, the marriage might work. But it doesn’t look likely to me because he was emotionally unavailable to you from the very beginning, and all through: “not a single compliment in these many years of marriage, not once he sat with me and talk heart to heart”- from the very beginning!

And he told you that he is fine with the way things are, and he sees no need for therapy/ marriage counseling- this is discouraging

Again, you see your faults, what you did wrong- but from what you described, there is something very wrong with him, unfortunately. Am I wrong in perceiving this?

* I will be away from the computer and back in a few hours.

anita