Dear Kitty:

You are very welcome. I think that Sid is a waste of your time and emotional resources.

“I agree he’s not good for future but who knows”- if in the future he actively pursues you (more than with words) and makes impressive efforts to see you and treat you well (…beyond words), efforts that he hasn’t make so far- then you can re-consider him as a candidate for a relationship. But don’t wait for him and definitely, don’t chase him!

I like your use of the verb discover and explore, in relation to Jake: “I’m yet to discover… exploring is better”- yes, keep discovering and exploring, aka learning about Jake: who is he, what does he value, does he follow his words with action, does he keep his word, etc.

anita