Dear srk:

Those waves of memories and emotion, when you become dysfunctional and tear up, try to not be afraid of those waves: you survived them and you will continue to survive them. You are okay and you will be okay.

About being disloyal to your kitten if you let go of his memories- if what you mean by it is that every once in a while you forget about him, and then you remember and you feel disloyal because you forgot- I suggest that you decide to think about him every day at a specific time and place, let’s say at 4 pm at home/ elsewhere, and decide that it is okay if you don’t think about him at other times. Does this make sense?

anita