What I mean as out relationship over the 10 years we have kept in touch was sharing everything and we didn’t really ever talk about sex. We are super close and share everything. We were together for 3 years and had amazing sex. However this has never been whats kept us close all this time. We have both been in other relationships, and now we r both single we have talked about the sex we used to have as we connected do well. But this has never ever been what our relationship was about. If we both said no we didn’t want to have sex, this wouldn’t change our relationship