Dear Joane:

You explained the matter well and I think I understand better now.

When he told you: “he has feelings but doesn’t want to risk our friendship”, I think that what he meant was that he is afraid that if he has a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship with you, there might be anger and a breakup and after that, he will no longer have you as his friend, a friend that he cares for very much.

He also told you “we fit so well together”- I think that he is not sure that you fit so well together in each and every way. At least on one way, he is not sure that you fit well together. In what way (or ways) does he doubt that you fit together so well- I don’t know.

One more thing, you wrote that you and him are “so close”- reads like the two of you are close, but often, two  people that are close to each other are not close to the same extent. You feel so close to him and you may feel that he feels the same, but maybe you feel closer to him than he feels to you.

anita