Dear Murtaza:

What matters most in our recent exchange is this, anita: “the truth is that I feel love for you”, Murtaza: “I feel love for you too”.

“Why is it necessary for one to be Inferior or Superior? How about Equal???”, I asked you. The above exchange (anita: I feel love for you, Murtaza: I feel love for you too) is Equal. See that? Neither one of us is superior, neither one is inferior.

“He is Superior in some aspect of life”-a person is superior to other people in many ways, such as in knowing how to bake bread, or grow vegetables, or do fancy software computer work, but when it comes to Human Basic Value- we are equal, you, I and every member on this site.

As to other parts of your message: (1) I understand that you addressed your thread to “a non normie person”, if one was to post in your thread, (2)You wrote in regard to the statement suicide-is-a-permanent-solution-to-a-temporary-problem,  “so lying is ok to such person?”- the statement is not a lie just because it is general and not comprehensive enough to include a variety of relevant considerations.

Also, if the person saying this statement says it because it is very meaningful to him, and with genuine concern in his voice and face, and with a willingness to spend more time with the needy person- the statement takes on a different meaning than if a person says it dismissively, just so to say something, whatever it may be, and then walk away,

(3) “some people born a sociopath with no desire to change”- no one is born a sociopath, no sociopath babies, (4) I wrote about what you said (“the here and now me.. can’t be hurt”), that it is “an untrue statement, evidence to the contrary in your threads is massive”, your response: “true”.

If I still exhibited the all-or-nothing-thinking, I would respond with: then you LIED (when you said what you said in parenthesis). But having improved my thinking skills, I figure that when you said what you said, it was probably not a lie, but a piece of wishful thinking, wishing that you can’t be hurt,

(5) by apathy you mean that you suffer less anxiety, less guilt, less shame- good thing then, (6) “fantasy is better”- yes, during the fantasy, while it is ongoing. I personally feel consistently better since I stopped fantasizing about life being magical and wonderful, (7) “If you had a baby, and he is suffering, begging you to end his life… would you tell him ‘don’t worry..”- babies don’t talk, can’t have a conversation with a baby,

(8) I wrote that I will not withdraw from your thread unless you become aggressive toward me, and you wrote: “you have seen me a bit aggressive with peter and other people in here, and you imagine that I will be aggressive to you too one day”-  I didn’t think that you were aggressive to other members. You were angry and impatient, but not aggressive (I may be wrong: I didn’t read all that you wrote to the other members). What I did think about when I mentioned aggression was your past (rare) use of profanity and sexual references on your previous thread. If you repeated that on this thread, I would have asked you to no longer do that. If you then ignored my request- that would have been aggression. But since you brought it up, I just told you what I don’t want to read from you, not if you want me to reply to you.

See, right here you made the wrong assumption (about what I was referring to regarding aggression), and that’s okay. But I want you to be tolerant when other people (including members who reply to you) make the wrong assumptions, okay?

anita