Dear Ben:

“What on earth am I going to do?”-

“I’m so ashamed of my cowardice… I feel like a scared kid, not a grown man, and I hate it”- peel the shame and hate off the fear: don’t shame and hate yourself because you are afraid.

Think of a child who is afraid, what will work better for the child: (1) saying to the child: I am ashamed of you! I hate you, coward! or (2) I like you very much and I understand that you are afraid, so I will help you. Together, slowly, patiently, we can do what you are afraid to do alone.  ?

anita