Dear soma:

It is okay for a girl to feel attracted to other girls just as it is okay for a girl to feel attracted to boys. So please don’t be afraid of yourself in regard to your same sex attraction: you are okay! Please don’t hate yourself.

“It’s still early in my life where I can hold back from making any decisions. I’m still young and learning.. I just need advice on confronting yourself and making terms with it… I just need to calm myself and accept myself”- you do need to calm down. On the other thread I referred to your post-breakdown joy, as you called it, to be like jumping into the cold, fresh water of a lake after running and sweating for hours in a hot summer day. It feels wonderful!

But better not run in a hot summer day: walk instead, and carry cold water with you, then stop once in a while and drink it. You can still jump into the lake when you get to it.. but you don’t have to suffer so much on the way to the lake: slow down, take slower breaths, relax.

anita