Dear Charlotte:

You are welcome and thank you for your empathy and appreciation. Of course, you can circle back to me later, anytime!

“I agree with everything you said, but still can’t help feeling a bit torn. My husband would like a 2nd child, although he does say it’s ultimately my decision. He had such a perfect childhood and sees the world in mainly rose-colored glasses”- I bet he sees his childhood through rose-colored glasses, and that’s why he thinks of it as perfect.

“He says things like, ‘the world has always been crazy..'”- I agree, and that’s why no childhood can be untouched by crazy.

I understand you being torn, I would be torn too, being in your shoes, wanting to please a good husband who wants a second child, and is so nice as to not pressuring you, being as understanding as he is.

He said: “‘.. there have been numerous near-total disasters in history that have been averted’ such as nuclear war with Russia, Nazi’s taking over the world, etc. And that the world is probably safer now than ever”-

– Many millions of people hid from the Nazis and otherwise survived them, but not a single person  can survive when unable to breathe, no one can survive the effects of climate change if it is allowed to deteriorate more and more.

“I was never sure I even wanted children to begin with, but now that I have one, I feel much more of a pull to have a second” – is your pull strictly about (1) pleasing your husband, and (2) “it might be nice for my son to have a sibling to navigate this crazy world with”? Or is there anything else to the pull?

anita