Dear Roro:

“living with that bit of hope for a relationship”, when there is evidence that such hope is not founded in reality- is a recipe for an ongoing heartache. I wouldn’t like that to be your situation.

“I’ve learnt now to be firmer, more decisive and more confident when I’m in similar situations”- good to read this.

About having told you that you are decent, etc.- you are welcome, and thank you for being decent, respectful and caring!

“I’ve seen you be of great help not just to myself but to others on the site. I was wondering what motivates you to do this? It’s really lovely and heartwarming to see”- thank you. My greatest motivation by far is to learn about people’s motivations and behaviors through members’ spontaneous, unedited writings in context of their ongoing communication with me and with other members. The more I learn about others, the more I learn about me, and vice versa. This learning is my passion.

anita