Dear Murtaza:

I think that you are a true Lover (a person who loves), I never thought of you and this word together, but  now I do: love is your essence (unlike, unfortunately, too many men who lost their loving essence for trying to meet the social expectation of being tough, insensitive, uncaring.. socially-manly).

Thank you for the A+. “I don’t want a romantic relationship with (Sara), although I wish, but I know that it won’t happen, I just want to make her life easier, somehow”- I want to reciprocate  your generous grading by handing you an A+ for being a Lover.

I wrote: “It is a good thing when indeed, there is no hope. Hope in a hopeless situation fuels misery”, and you responded with: “Finally, the truth, it feels so good to hear those words”.

You wrote about Sara, a 28 year old respectful woman (not a normie) who “suffers from a lot of mental health issues, OCD, Anxiety, General anxiety disorder, OCPD (perfectionism)”:  “I cared for her, and she only felt bothered, I told her that  I want to do something for her, anything, I don’t think she wanted anything”

– read like she was/ is hopeless, that she was not able or willing to imagine that you can help her, that your love for her can make her feel better (?)

anita