Dear Namaste87:

“I channelise it via poetry”- I would love to read a poem by you, if (and only if) you would like to share it here. I used to write poems as a teenager, lots and lots of them. It helped me too.

“But the relationship with a parent is so so deep!”- my feelings for my mother were so, so deep indeed, but not the relationship. If I look at the relationship from her perspective, it was very superficial. This means that I only imagined a deep relationship with her based on my deep feelings.

Imagine your mother’s perspective. Can you imagine her saying to anyone right now: my relationship with my daughter is so, so deep! (?)

“In an Indian society, it was such a taboo to speak against your parents or tell someone how things were wrong at home.. I have learnt that not everyone needs to know everything… I am sure there are so many people like me who have struggled but maybe are so afraid to voice themselves”- for the society I know, it is acceptable for a mother to betray/ mistreat her daughter; it is unacceptable for the betrayed/ mistreated daughter to mention it, let alone talk about it.

It is therefore better to not talk to just anyone about our mothers- many will consider us.. disloyal, feel angry at us for allegedly betraying her, and they will pity our mothers.

“For the past two years, at least I am trying to be authentic to people to truly say how I am feeling instead of ‘I am fine’. I feel so light after that!”- like the British say: well done!

“Thank you for these words. Yes, the thinking is to be there for my child and I can’t wait to him/her. I have always wondered over the years, what sort of mother I will become. I hope to become a kind and compassionate one”- you are welcome, it is a pleasure and a great interest for me to communicate with you. I hope to continue for as long as you would like. As far as being a kind and compassionate mother to your child- I think that you will be!

anita