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Hello my friend,
My name is Wind. I would like to some some ideas with you. Ideas are only to invite your quiet contemplation. As you described that you meditation, you can gently focus on each idea. Of course I only share, after share…. You believe or no believe, curious or no curious.. always depends you. You free.
Did you know, that your Soul chose your Mother. Meaning..
Nothing goes beyond the law of cause and effect. Example.. Your parents, your a man, or woman, your country, you rich or poor, healthy or sick, relationships, job, everything.. etc etc…. Are all appearances of your effects from past causes.
No one can escape their cause and effect. But what is important is to begin to see this basic root law and begin escape the appearance of everything that takes place in the life.
One day.. When you can sincerely understand from the root that you chose everything this is now YOU. When you see this from the Law.. Then my friend.. You relax and peace in all situations. No longer are there endless needs for solutions.
Until then..
I borrow the word object to describe.. Each object, meaning person.. Why object? Because each BODY has the time and space. Including all other objects you can see. The body is an object because it can not escape the time.. meaning it has a beginning and ending. Within each object carries the seed of cause and effect when come to the life. Within the Soul. You, me, you Mother, Father etc….. all on the Earth. The law of cause and effect does not care the appearance as the law has no eyes, no ears, no feelings and no discrimination.. And effects always come right equal with the cause and appear on the time, when enough details, conditions and occasion appeared.
My friend, you can not know where or when the fruit will or will not appear on the tree. Likewise, we can not know our effect until, the on the time Law appears.
Why I share this idea..
Because if you did not begin to curious about and begin observing the life deeper and in meditation to understand this basic Law.. You will, as you are not.. Be held a slave from within your own inner prison of being dominated by all things that are outside of you. And, by your emotions attached to false seeing and thinking.
If something is outside of you, means… It is not you. Then why, do you build the bridge and invite everything outside, to inside? ..
Mother, Father … Are the circumstances of your Life. But inside each object, Mother and Father also can not escape their cause and effect. Everything they did, they do, is equal with their space. The nature of forgiveness is when you can see the Law in each object from a Unified View. Not a Physical View from appearance of behavior.. Unified means you put down good or bad, right or wrong to see the nature of object and escape the judgement and discrimination attached to the appearance. This takes practice and courage. When you can begin see the law of the cause and effect space within each object, you will begin to escape your own prison of suffering.
Until then..
When you constantly keep the past from feeling or emotions attached to situations.. Means you are losing yourself and constantly pursuing the past. Likewise when you are behaving equally with worrying about an imagined future, you are losing yourself to the future.
What is the root purpose of all Souls that come to the life in this or that body? Without the body, the Soul has no occasion to grow up, receive and pay everything. Behavior in PAY or RECIEVE is the important detail. You see everything from the family so difficult for you.. For what purpose? Difficult situation can become your greatest ally in your practice to overcome everything within you, if you have the courage to see everything from the law of the Souls purpose. My friend, the Soul must have difficult situation to grow up and pay. How you pay, always depends on your courage and self determination to focus beyond the appearance of all trouble.
PUT DOWN YOUR EMOTIONS WITH EACH OBJECT…. Only see and observe but not follow the behavior of object. Requires skill and practice. By what way to see and observe? By awareness. Awareness is seeing in quiet. The space of awareness did not depend on the feeling. As all emotions are like thieves that rob you of your own treasure.
You can not control the thoughts, ideas and behavior of any object outside you. So stop wasting time my friend. Must wake up and clean and clear everything inside. The life always takes place from within. Practice to see and know and is happening inside you. Begin observe inside and the behavior outside. If the object is angry, or sad, or loud.. Only observe my friend. But do not lose yourself to the appearance. Only observe the same way you observe a scene within a movie. When you can practice to become the observer, you stay in balance and you can not imagine how quickly each situation suddenly changes. Practice during the day and see what happens within.
Now you are a Mother, ready with begin your family and child. You have a duty to yourself and the Soul of baby to create peaceful conditions inside. You must courage. Not reflex with every word or emotions from people outside of you. When awareness comes late and emotions lead.. From the thought, lights the spark and the emotions begin run like an out of control fire until everything has passed with the time.
It is not your Mothers behavior or any others you must practice to overcome.. It is yourself you must begin to win back.
When we use keys to drive one car, after we get out..do we try use the same keys in the next? No.
Likewise.. finish each situation equals must put down and finish emotion with situation. This is a good way to begin practice until, you begin seeing everything within with speed. It is not enough to say you understand or know.. The value of ideas only appears from with the action to practice.
I do not talk about me. But I share.. Before I enlightenment.. I passed many many dark forests and visited many Hells. I share from sincere of experience and practice to overcome everything. No special. But I share because you must courage and patience within each step. Must have a purpose within each action.
One day.. You will say thank you with Mother and Father. Though that maybe difficult to accept now. On the time when everything opens, you will understand this idea.
WHAT YOU KEEP, KEEPS YOU. Meaning.. In your meditation, practice to leave everything, to clean and cut any emotions attached to early situations or past experiences of difficulties… all emotions attached to suffering from the imagined appearances from keeping the past inside the present. Now your a young Mother, ready for new discoveries in new situation.. and you must prepare everything good for your baby. Prepare means.. begin cleaning and clearing away all the inner obstructions that you have carried with you along our life that block you like dark clouds that block the Sun from shining and seeing the new possibilities that will come. Clear the clouds my friend and you will see just because you could not see the bright for sometime, did not mean it was lost.
You must focus on you, your baby and your life. Do not confuse this with selfishness. As selfishness is to not focus on your Soul and life of new baby come. That is your duty.
When you can begin see and understand the nature of Mother, Father and all objects. You simply create the right behavior on the time with each object. After.. you practice to forget everything. No keep. When you wake up in the morning, begin say good morning to yourself first. Before you sleep, take time to clear and clean everything from the day. let it go.. means put down the emotions. This can be difficult.. But, everything is practice. Kicking a ball, throwing a rock at a pole..
With practice comes confidence. With practice comes new effects. With practice comes sincere faith from ones own experience.
Practice means relax with yourself. No judgement or inner discrimination.. patience. Everything opens on the time my friend. The time do not care you, so do not waste time grasping in the past. Holding onto the feelings attached to the appearances. Habits are the prison of the Soul. Come back my friend. Come back to YOU. Keep practice meditation and importantly.. Whatever takes place in meditation, only observe, but not follow.
The life always moves and changes. When we keep, we become like stagnant water. Stagnant water becomes polluted. So too the Soul when we keep everything inside. When you meditate on problem.. put the problem outside of you and observe it. Then look for the way to overcome. The feelings about problem are no value. Look for what need to do and simply do.
My friend.. No words can save you. Only YOU can save You or destroy YOU. Depends on where you begin focus your energy.
Always tried from emotions means we can not enough details and conditions to begin seeing clearly and overcome.
These ideas are only like some strange rocks on the path of your life. See, pick up, begin understand and practice with strange rocks is always your free choice. Each life equals each destination.
Thank you so much,
NO KEEP = Free.
Wind.