Dear Amanda:

“wondering if I am still in a relationship.. hate not knowing”- I think that you are no longer in a relationship since 4 or 5 days ago.

“can’t reach out and ask ‘what are we'”?- I don’t think that he can answer this question, not to you and not to himself. From what you shared he is mentally disabled, as in not able to answer important questions. Life is too difficult for him: work was too difficult so he stopped showing up to work; his relationship with you was too difficult, so he .. stopped showing up in your life.

Mental illness is widespread, so many people are unwell. What is most important for you and for your child is that you do your best to not deteriorate mentally because of this breakup or for any other reason. You have to be strong, endure and move on from him, let him go. Can you do that, one day at a time?

anita