Also , i need to disclose this as its haunting me, he is short and very thin and that didnt bother me ever i always liked his style and how elegant he dresses. However, almost a year ago he became super thin and people started asking me “whats wrong, is he ok?” and i had to justify that he is fine, even buying him clothes or something i struggled with sellers and i started feeling that im not really physically attracted to him and im worried about him , so i brought it up i told him ” you and me being the same weight is really wrong and as a girl it would feel different to have someone who is bigger in body next to me cause it might not feel physically attractive otherwise”. and look i know im not a model or anything the normal not so special person but mentioning that to him doesnt mean i dont like his style or anything it just a matter of body size. he accepted it and mentioned that other people recently mocked him in a brutal way and that he will start working on him and he honetsly did he started going to the gym and getting protein shakes and i encouraged him and really was telling him that im noticing a change to motivate him.. yet when there was a fight once and recently as well he mentioned this point as “me not accepting him the way he is” and that if he wanted to be with someone with better body features he would but he accepts it and he started pointing out which body parts in me … and i kinda took that to the heart as i didnt directly attack his style or any specific body part and i though he understood the point but i admit maybe i was wrong for first mentioning this to him and second for taking it personally when he pointed things out specifically in me …he ended up apologizing ( and thats when i feel maybe it confirms that they are right that i am controlling , or i am not? i really dont know i feel like im losing my mind now.. help me i was never like that in my realtionship with him,,,what happened to us…)
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 