Dear Jalen:

I am sorry you lost your father to Covid…

“My biggest problem is my anger. When I get mad I can say some hurtful things to those closest to me… My mother is quite toxic and I constantly hear her criticism in my head every day”- to lessen your anger so that it doesn’t overwhelm you, you have to stop hearing your mother’s criticism of you.

This means that her criticism of you in real life has to stop (if it takes no contact, then be it), and that her criticism of you in your own head has to stop as well. It is easier and faster to achieve the first, but way more difficult and it takes longer to achieve the second.

If you would like to discuss this with me, please do.

anita