Dear Anita,

I broke up with him about 2 hours ago. I took the courage to do so after he said we won’t meet today since a relative passed away.

I know it’s not a good move to do so when one is grieving, but he is not actually grieving and quite frankly, I couldn’t bear myself to keep going on, exchanging meaningless texts and breaking my nerves little by little. I chose peace. I chose myself and the life I want and the love I deserve to find.

The whole thing was very amicable and friendly. He finally admitted that he was in fact distant and cold, that he is 100% to blame for this situation and that although he knew the pain that I was in, didn’t want to let me go. He said that he completely understands and fully supports me in my decision to leave, and that all he said to me were not empty promises, he truly meant them but he just couldn’t let go of being so closed up.

I told him that he needs time to process the emotional trauma from his previous break up and that he is not ready to enter a proper relationship, to which he finally agreed… Finally.

We promised to be here for one another on a friendly basis but I told him to take the summer and fully recover. If he feels 100% ready and I can see the change in him, we could in the future start on a different basis. He said he really wants that as well.

This, for me, is a clean break up. I told him that, should we find other people to date, that’s okay and completely normal. He said he won’t because he is not in a good place to do so and because there is no one like me. This last part (although true hehe 😉 ) I do not take it seriously.

I feel extremely peaceful and grateful to have had the courage to seperate and reclaim my life. It is a good life, a busy one, full of potential. I can wait for the bus, I can wait in line in the bank, I can wait for the bananas to ripen. But I cannot wait to be treated right. I demand it. If one can’t treat me right , then one should leave.

What are your thoughts? I feel proud of myself…