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AnonymousDear miyoid:
“I know that this is not healthy at all, I know I’m not healthy and I know he’s not either. I know that we shouldn’t be in contact at least till both of us gets healthier. But I cannot hold on to anything. I feel like I need something, I feel like I need just one solid rock to hold on to. Anything.”-
– Clearly, he is not a solid rock for you to hold on to. Not only is he not a solid rock for you to hold on to, he is shaking the ground underneath you, so you keep falling again and again.
As I see it, your number 1 need is to stop the ground underneath you from shaking repeatedly, which means: to let him know that there will be zero contact between you and him, no matter what, forevermore, and then- make this zero contact happen. I cannot see any other way.
anita
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