Dear noname:

“It was the frustration I feel with failed attempts to date.. The frustration in my mind typically manifests itself in the thought of ‘what am I doing wrong that I can’t be loved?’“-

– maybe there is another question to ask before asking the one you asked above, and that is: what is it about being loved that scares you so much, what is the danger?

Something about what you desire most (to be loved) feels dangerous, so you approach it.. then withdraw, approach.. withdraw, and so on. In totality, you stay away from it.

anita