Hi Anita,

He definitely did try to be more empathetic and caring, he is fully aware that he is a bad person and he even admits it. The thing is, he was trying to be better but now he just admits hes not a good person and does not care.

It is worth noting he is above the age of 18 so his diagnosis is valid.

“the serenity prayer states in part: “Help me to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”- you can’t change him (and shouldn’t try anymore), you can change your attitude, although it is difficult to accomplish (to give up hope to change him, and move on from him)- focus then on what you can change and post again anytime with your thoughts and feelings. I am here to reply to you further if/ when you post.”

Thank you so much for this, I really needed this reminder that I am in control of my thoughts and actions. It is difficult to give up this hope and I have been trying for so long. I no longer have any desire to be with him (his current self) but I notice that deep down inside I have hope that he’ll go back to being his best self. I’m not sure if this hope will ever change or leave, because I am always praying for my loved ones to be their best self. I am trying my best.

anita