Hi TeaK,

I liked his personality where he was very straightforward, honest, and even caring about his loved ones. He showed a lot of passion in whatever he was interested in, he is very easy-going and funny. He did appreciate me in his own way and wanted the best for me. He was always true to himself and loved me for my good and bad sides. That’s the person I love dearly.

The person he is today is arrogant, only cares about himself, and makes no effort to pursue his passions. He does have the same traits I stated in the beginning (honesty, straightforward, etc.) but it’s been masked by extreme hostility. This is the person I cannot love because it brings me great pain to be disrespected by him.

“”Based on what you’ve written, he never was truly caring and supportive of you, but at least he was “trying”, or he saw that he “should be” more empathic, and this was what kept you hoping.””

This is somewhat true. He shows his support and love to me in a very different way, at first I wasn’t used to it and I wholeheartedly believed he did not love me because he was not showing me love in a way that I understood it. It occured to me that he does in fact love me, he just shows it in a way that is hard for me to understand. This is because he has a hard time showing empathy and that is all I ever wanted. I just needed him to feel empathy towards me and show it, that is how I feel loved. I could see his efforts in trying to be more empathetic and show it, but it’s extremely difficult to “learn empathy” especially when you are older.

“”You did say in your last post that you had “a great bond and connection”. But I wonder if that bond was rather around working on his “improvement” and his need to change, and not really a bond in terms of feeling respected and supported by him?””

The bond I was referring to is that I’m completely comfortable with his presence, and I haven’t felt this way with anyone ever before. We’re both able to act like our complete selves in front of each other, and we just understand some things without even talking about them because we share similar values. I did for sure feel respected and supported by him in the beginning of the relationship and even during our friendship, but something changed in him and I’m not sure what, but he just became so emotionless suddenly and that’s when the disrespect started.